A Simple Holiday Stress Reliever for a Caregiver is… “No”

Part of my life for the past two and one half years has been that of caregiver to my mom, aged 91. Major cardiac issues required a four month hospitalization and rehab in two different states and a move from the area she called home for 70 years. I did not have to think twice about stepping up and stepping in to help mom get back on her feet and I have not regretted it.

In addition to my role as a caregiver, I am also a husband, a dad, and a pastor. So this time of year with the Advent/Christmas events and services that are part of the congregation I serve, the time pressure increases.

But this year, I decided to say…

NO

No to additional responsibilities and opportunities that come only this time of year.

No to embracing an attitude of “I have to do it all, no one will help me…” and allowing others to grow in their leadership and service skills

No to more caffeine (Still working on that one but I have cut back on my caffeine intake and it has made a difference)

But while saying ‘No’ is good for us, saying ‘Yes’ to other things is also important…

Things such as…

Taking, no wait,…. MAKING time for yourself Who said we have to run around this time of year like an animated Tasmanian Devil?

Simply sit down and rest. Get out your favorite tea, coffee, or hot chocolate drink and sit down and rest! Read a book! (Look for my post My Top 12 Reads of 2015 on this site and if one catches your attention, buy a copy and enjoy a good book!)

Meditate/pray Slow down the anxious thoughts and relax

Let your pet love on you. (Even when typing a blog post!)

Turn off the TV, step back from your social media stream for a bit, allow silence to be a friend

This time of year in my community, a small town of just under 10,000, our local high school puts on musical. Now while My wife and I are there because our youngest is in it I know that there are caregivers present at the performances. Our parks and recreation department does a wonderful Christmas Card Display that is lit up in the evenings. For a donation, you can see some great artwork from a diverse group of clubs, churches, child care facilities, school groups and community groups from the comfort (and warmth) of your vehicle.  Find something fun to go to.

Caregiving is hard at times but…

life does not have to be put on hold and saying ‘No’ is one way that we can say “Yes” to living giving and renewing events that will help us not just be better caregivers but better human beings!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays everyone!

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Jim Kane

I am a hubby to my wife of over 30 years, dad to two university students, caregiver to his mom, a minister, cat dad to Hanna who we adopted from our local animal shelter, a life-long aviation fan, and a reader and blogger. I began this blog in 2008 and post my book reviews, messages to my congregation, prayers, and other things as well. Thank you for stopping by!

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5 thoughts on “A Simple Holiday Stress Reliever for a Caregiver is… “No””

  1. Hi Jim! So glad you’ve joined our blog party!!

    I think of “saying no” as the best way to say yes to myself. 🙂

    Thanks so much for the reminder to say yes to me. !!

    Wishing you and yours a happy and healthy holiday season.

  2. Hi, I stopped by for the Caregiving Holiday Blog Party. Thank you for an interesting post with great points. As a busy REALTOR-blogger in Roseville CA, as well as caregiver for my senior mom, AND overseer for another long-distance elderly beloved and helping with grandkids, your words of advice are definitely wise. I, too, have not done as much as normal this season since it has been particularly busy, and I’m OK with that. I’m getting lots of hugs from grandkids and grand-dogs. And I’ve thoroughly enjoyed sharing the many Christmas holiday happenings in and around Roseville and Sacramento blogs even though I’ve only made it to a few. Just sharing the info is fun as well and I enjoy reading the happy comments from those who DID go. God is good and each year is different, but keeping the primary focus on Him and on His Word is, indeed, a major blessing and strength to me that I so value and appreciate. I pray for a sweet Christmas and a blessed year to come of you and your lovely family.

    Kaye

    PS I have to confess – I still make good use of caffeine as well 🙂

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