Since April 2013, when my now 94 year old mother was diagnosed with cardiac issues, I have been her caregiver. And one of the ways I engage in self-care is signing into Twitter on Tuesday afternoon’s for a “tweetchat” with other caregivers called “carechat.”
During a recent carechat, the issue about quality of life came up and Dr Mannix’s book was suggested as a good read on the subject. I am glad that it was suggested.
Titled With the End in Mind: Dying, Death, and Wisdom in An Age of Denial (2018, Little, Brown, and Company) Dr Mannix, a UK physician who specializes in Palliative Care and a therapist trained in the CBT (Cognative Behavioral Therapy), has given us a very helpful and practical book through the stories of patients and families she has dealt with during her medical career.
The stories make this book and through them the spectrum of emotions faced by both patients, family and friends, and medical personnel themselves, are addressed. Personally, I will not forget the stories of Holly, Alex, Sally, Vronny, Max, Walter, Dan, and Mrs Liang for they well illustrate Dr Mannix’s kaleidoscope of people who are in their final moments and days of life, all of whom express the fears and uncertainty that death brings up.
This is a very “user-friendly” (if I may use that term) book regarding a subject and a reality that we all face. It is well-written, compassionate, and insightful.
As a son and caregiver, a husband and a father, and as a clergyperson who has watched death and walked with those who remain, I really appreciated this book.
I recommended its usage in ministerial training as well as the helping professions in general – including medicine. And I recommend to everyone as a way to helpfully talk about death and dying.
Thank you Dr Mannix…
I rated this book five stars on Goodreads.
Note: I read and reviewed this book as noted above without any expectation of a review or a positive review.