A Hump Day Prayer for Children caring for their parents

English: My parents.

English: My parents. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Father God,

I come to You with gratitude for my parents. Though dad is in Your presence today I am grateful for the life and legacy he left.

And I pray for mom who is still recuperating from her surgeries today. I too thank You for her life and legacy.

It is wearying Lord to wait by the bed and wait from afar as a parent seeks to gain their strength back from illness and surgery so they can move on with the life they. So I ask for the mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical strength AND stamina as I walk with mom in this season of life.

I pray today for other adult children who are dealing with caring for their parents.

Some Lord are dealing with difficult decisions as to what a parent wants and does not want regarding care.

Others Father God are dealing with determining what to do about such care because the parent is unable to make that decision.

Still others are wrestling with all sorts of emotions – guilt, jealousy, anger, sadness, grief and the like as they care for their parents.

Even today Lord, other children are waiting in waiting rooms as important and serious surgery is being done and yet other sons and daughters are traveling because the news is not good.

In all cases dear Jesus, we ask that Your presence will be felt this day.

And Father, for those who deal with caring for parents as an only child or one whose siblings are no longer alive or able to be “there” grant Your grace for them this day.

 

In Jesus’ name.

Amen.

A Mother’s Day Tribute to My Mom

My parents and I at my college graduation, May 1980

My parents and I at my college graduation, May 1980

When my mom was born, Calvin Coolidge was President. (I am sure she would give me her look for saying that..)

She was born in the ‘hills and hollers’ of Eastern Tennessee. When I visited there with her, her mom, and my father in the summer of 1969 I understood what a ‘southern breakfast’ truly was… never did steak and eggs taste better than after sleeping in a down filled bed!

She was part of what has been called  the “greatest generation.” The day after she graduated from High School in 1943, she packed up all her earthly possessions and moved to Dayton, Ohio where the work was. Within a week, she had a job and became a part of an important part of the war effort – a civilian employee with General Motors. She left Dayton only to go to college and returned to Tennessee only a few times.

College was on her agenda after the war but she postponed it a year to help her parents buy a house using the money she saved for college. She never regretted doing it.

She had (and still has) high standards when it came to men. No divorced men, no smokers nor drinkers. Pictures of her in those days showed a blonde beauty who had, I am sure, numerous suitors. But she dated little and told God that if she was to be an “old maid” then so be it and she did not want to be a cranky one!

But in 1946 she met a family, including a 15 year old boy, who would become a key part of her life to this day.

Independent to the exasperation of her father, she secretly learned to drive after getting off work. He did not want her to do so and then refused to help her find a car. She asked a cousin to help her and she found her first car, bought with her own money, a 1950 Dodge (black with red interior and the personal car of a local police chief). Though chagrined, her father loved her car and liked the sound of the horn!

By the mid-1950′s the 15 year old boy had become a man on the battlefields of Korea and held a passionate interest in her. Much to her chagrin. “Why doesn’t he date girls his own age?” Well, she would find out that what he wanted, he usually got.

And in October 1955 the 31 year old library employee and the 24 year old tool and die maker got married and stayed married until my father passed away in 1991.

Time then flew by with my birth and the life that comes from living and raising a son and church and school and family… She worked for a bank, then as a private kindergarten teacher, then a public school substitute teacher for over a decade until she retired in the early 80′s. When I went off to college “two states, 300 miles, 6 hours, and one time zone away” she admitted that she cried all the way back across those two states. (I KNOW she would give me the look right now.)

When my father retired in the late 80′s they traveled to California and back with plans for a Pacific Northwest trip that never materialized because of my father’s sudden death from a second heart attack.

I remember how hard it was to leave her, alone for the first time in over 35 years, on that Mother’s Day, a widow.

But today, I left her recuperating from major heart surgery this week, her independence currently curtailed as she regains her strength. But as I neared home her nurse called me to let me know that she was awake from a procedure, talking her up, and that she wanted me to know that and also to know if “I got home safely.” Yup, that’s my mom.

My mother is an example of a woman in which learning and education has known no bounds. She is a person of great faith. Both have contributed to me creating this blog nearly 6 years ago.

So I salute my mother today and give thanks to God for her as we now navigate together a new chapter with uncertainty as to the next steps but with gratitude for the life we have lived together and apart and now closer (geographically and otherwise) together again.

Happy Mother’s Day mom!

A Hump Day Prayer for Grieving Parents

Gracious God

We are trusting You to be gracious today…

We need You to be gracious today

because there are parents who are grieving.

Some are grieving Lord because

their child is laying in a hospital bed clinging to life

some are grieving because  their child has chosen to go a direction that causes them great concern

Others are grieving because their child was taken from them in an act of violence in their own homes or neighborhoods.

Yet some are grief stricken because a parent’s grief is for a child who has been dead a long time and that child is still dearly missed.

Be gracious to these parents this day Lord

Wrap Your arms of love and care around them

Be a Good Father this morning

We grieve with them.

Amen.

 

Sunday Sermon: Now What? Stand Fast!

Scripture Passage – Acts 7:54-60

Description – The Final Sermon in the post-Easter series “Now what, Jesus?”

 

I begin with this morning’s text from Acts 7:54-60:

 

When the members of the Sanhedrin heard this, they were furious and gnashed their teeth at him. But Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God. “Look,” he said, “I see heaven open and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God.”

 

At this they covered their ears and, yelling at the top of their voices, they all rushed at him, dragged him out of the city and began to stone him. Meanwhile, the witnesses laid their coats at the feet of a young man named Saul.

 

While they were stoning him, Stephen prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.” Then he fell on his knees and cried out, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” When he had said this, he fell asleep.

 

As we conclude our post-Easter series “Now what Jesus?” we come to a passage of scripture that I think is often hard to read and study because it makes us uncomfortable. And it is uncomfortable because we like to think that we could avoid being murdered for our faith.

 

But I think what God would say to us through this passage today, in light of our theme of living in the days after Easter, is “Stand Fast!” “Stand fast in the faith and truth of what you have heard and been taught and believe and stand fast in Me!”

 

Now, as with several passages we have recently read, this passage requires some explanation of what has already been said before our main text. With this text what has just been said is important to understand because it sets up the action mentioned in what we have just read. But in this case we have to go back to Acts 6:8 to get the full story.

 

And this story starts with these words: “Now Stephen, a man full of God’s grace and power, performed great wonders and signs among the people. Opposition arose, however, from members of the Synagogue of the Freedmen (as it was called)—Jews of Cyrene and Alexandria as well as the provinces of Cilicia and Asia—who began to argue with Stephen. But they could not stand up against the wisdom the Spirit gave him as he spoke.”

 

Notice that Stephen, who is as we read further back in Acts 6, one of those chosen to take care of the food distribution, is being challenged by followers of Judaism from other parts of the world – Egypt and what is now known as Turkey, including where a man named Saul came from. But Stephen is a spiritually deep man and great wonders and signs that came from him caused an uproar with the established leaders. No one could stand up to the wisdom and insight that Stephen had because of the power of the Holy Spirit operating through him.

 

The result is that he is dragged before the Sanhedrin, the Jewish court and has the opportunity to refute the charges. As I read through the rest of chapter 6 I was reminded of Jesus’ who also stood before the Sanhedrin.

 

The beginning of chapter 7 has Stephen answering the charges, stated toward the end of chapter 6, “…we have heard him say that this Jesus of Nazareth will destroy this place and change the customs Moses handed down to us.”  Stephen’s response is, in many ways, a succinct summary of the Old Testament and it is a familiar story to his audience, one that they could identify with because they knew it well and for some they knew it from childhood.

 

I have a sense that as Stephen shared the Sanhedrin perhaps wondered what the fuss was about. I think they could have been saying to themselves, “There is nothing new here. This is familiar and we believe this is true.”

But then he makes a statement which angers them “You stiff-necked people! Your hearts and ears are still uncircumcised. You are just like your ancestors: You always resist the Holy Spirit! Was there ever a prophet your ancestors did not persecute? They even killed those who predicted the coming of the Righteous One. And now you have betrayed and murdered him— you who have received the law that was given through angels but have not obeyed it.”

 

The result is a rage induced frenzy in which Stephen is killed.

 

He calls them out, like Jesus did, on their stubborn hearts and a lack of faith in Jesus Christ. And he pays with his life.

 

But notice what happens as Stephen is being stoned to death:

 

While they were stoning him, Stephen prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.” Then he fell on his knees and cried out, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” When he had said this, he fell asleep.

 

If this were to happen to me, I am not sure I would have the presence of mind to say “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” I probably would roll up into a ball to protect myself.

 

What would you do?

 

Stephen does not run. He stands his ground.

He tells the story – God’s story – honestly but ultimately with love. Otherwise, why would he have asked God not hold them accountable for his murder?

 

Good and evil are truly at war here. And the war is in the desires and priorities of the Sanhedrin. They feel threatened by Stephen’s words because it challenges their power and authority. The issue of faith to them is about power and politics not human transformation and redemption. Their mission was to hang on to what they had at any cost and let no one else, including Jesus, get in their way.

Jesus told the disciples, and surely Stephen heard them say this to him and others, “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.  If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you… If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also.”

(This is out of John 15)

 

We are so concerned these days about the church’s lack of influence in society and that we also lament we no longer seem to be a “Christian” nation. Have we stopped to consider that perhaps in pursuing some other agendas we have forgotten the true agenda of our faith? I think that Stephen serves as a painful reminder that in standing fast for the faith, we are going to make enemies because the agenda of the Christian faith is nothing short than a deep and profound forgiveness resulting in transformation of the human heart and character.

 

And these men, and their character, were called out, if you will, by Stephen because the true nature of our faith and our agenda is to call out people from their selfishness and self-centeredness in short, their sinful attitudes and actions, and invite them to repent from them and turn to God. And there are some people who do not want to hear that – ever.

 

I think that we have forgotten this in the age of social media where we want to be ‘liked’ and followed and friend-ed and re-tweeted. We have forgotten that we are sinners in need of a power greater than ourselves because we are insane – spiritually insane and so we keep trying the latest techniques, programs, and follow the latest thinkers – but to no avail.

 

What we need is an old fashion repentin’! And this repentin’ can begin when we are sick and tired of the way we are living that is not working even when we say that it is ‘Christian.’ When our own stiff-necked-ness is causing us to live spiritually schizophrenic lives!

 

What say you this morning church?

 

Would you be free from the burden of sin? There’s power in the blood, power in the blood! Would you ov’r evil a victory win? There’s wonderful power in the blood!

 

Not in slick campaigns nor trendy seminars and ideas. Neither in 100 sure fire ways to grow your church nor in, dare I say it, building fund campaigns.

 

But only in the life changing power of Jesus Christ and the forgiveness He has made possible for us to accept and be changed by.

 

Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Are you weary of the weariness in your hearts?

 

Come home. Get up out of the mud and crud and come home.

 

God is waiting for us. Jesus is waiting for us and the Holy Spirit is the one who is telling us to get up out of the mud and come home!

 

What say you this morning church?

 

Who will we listen to now, at this moment?

 

Amen.

 

Hump Day Prayer 4.24.13

I am tired today Father

saline

saline (Photo credit: Cult Gigolo)

worn out and exhausted.

I am stretched out emotionally from end to end.

My energy level is low

Going to work makes me sigh

I am focused today on family

surgery

healing

The ‘what if’s’ of it all

I need Your strength

Your strength

to help me get through this day.

 

I am grateful for the words and actions of love

shown to me

but I know that I live in these moments alone.

And yet I know that I am not alone

You are with me

and that gives me hope.

 

So in the middle of this week

at the beginning (for me at least) of the day

I come to You

and I ask for strength that I do not have

to do what I need (and want) to do.

 

So then

Good and Gracious Father

You will be honored and praised

and others will be reminded that

You are a God

who does not leave us alone

in the midst of

this week

and this season of life.

 

Amen

 

Sunday Sermon: In The Midst of… God is There

 

 

Scripture Passage – Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

 

Description – A sermon for April 21, 2013

 

 

 

I felt led late this week to change my sermon text and theme from my current series to what I share with you this morning. I begin with a new text, familiar to many of us, Ecclesiastes 3:1-8:

 

 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

 

    a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
     a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
     a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
     a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
     a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,     a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
     a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

 

 “There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens…”

 

 What time is it?

 

Clock in Kings Cross railway station

Clock in Kings Cross railway station (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

 

It is a question that is asked, very, very often, on a daily basis by each one of us here.

 

 

 

Sometimes we ask this question when we want to know what the clock indicates – nine thirty am or pm? Six twenty am or pm? Two fifteen am or pm.

 

Sometimes we ask this question when we want to know what we have to do next or what someone else has to do next…

 

It’s bath time!

 

It’s time for bed!

 

It’s time for the TV show.

 

It’s time to take out the trash.

 

It’s time to go to school!

 

It’s time for your medicine.

 

Sometimes we ask this question in the form of a statement when major changes in life take place or about to take place.

 

He died at…

 

She was born at…

 

The verdict was handed down at…

 

This past week I have been aware of the passing of time – both in hours and minutes and in years and decades.

 

There are two words in the language of New Testament Greek which refer to time.

 

One is chronos and the other is kairos. Chronos is the word with which we are both familiar- chronology, chronometer – it refers to time that we measure in minutes, seconds, hours, days, months, years.

 

The second word kairos is one that we don’t consider as we think about time. But it has to do with the issue of, as one source indicated, the right moment.

 

The marriage proposal…

 

Applying for college…

 

Graduation…

 

Starting a business…

 

The descriptions in our main text for this morning has to do with, I believe, both kinds of time.

 

Birth and death is both a season and a place in time event. There are seasons of life when we give birth to new ideas and opportunities and then there are seasons when we let certain dreams or a phase of life die – for example from “pedal to the metal” pace to an empty nest of loud silence and a snail’s pace.

 

There is a season of looking for the right opportunity or person to accomplish something. And then there is a season when the team has to be dismantled, the leadership needs to be changed.

 

Each of these moments have both a ‘season-the right moment’ and a ‘time- a minutes and hours’ component. They define our lives long term and short term.

 

That took place ‘before’ dad’s death

 

That occurred after Linda’s birth

 

But what the writer of our main text ultimately says to each of us is this:

 

God is present, in the midst of, all of them

 

 

The opportunity for us is to then look for God and then ask Him what He asks of us or what His mission or purpose is.

 

In my time as your pastor we have had seasons of growth and decline. We have had moments of study and discussion and then moments of action. These moments have been marked by times we can recall – that year’s congregational meeting, that Christmas’ play.

 

But this holds true for us individually as well.

 

Some of us are in the season of raising children while others of us are not. Some of us have raised our kids and they have, for the most part, left our home and lived on their own.

 

Some of us have been married and are now single. Others of us have never been married.

 

Some of us have been students but now we learn outside the classroom.

 

This past week I have pondered the passing of time as I sat in my mother’s hospital room and in waiting areas as tests were run. The locality of the hospital however also brought back memories as the neighborhood was the location of one of my mother’s mom and dad homes almost 70 years ago. It also reminded me of the long history my father’s family has had with Dayton for probably 100 years. Streets I drove had houses and neighborhoods we once lived in.

 

 

At times I was lost between past, present, future, and eternity.

 

 

I have also been reminded this week that others have been dealing seasons and times of death and grief; a new life and chapter with children; illness and other kinds of change.

 

 

God has been, and continues to be, present in the midst of it all.

 

 

So I ask you this morning two questions:

 

 

1 What time is in your life right now?

2   What season is it in your life right now?

 

 

One of things that I remember from time to time is that when I look out at all of you I know that we are at various times and seasons of life . And I will also tell you that it is a bit hard to keep track of so many different happenings and situations.

 

 

But while some of us are dealing with young children who get sick or who break legs and arms or who are struggling in school others of us are dealing with end of life issues and the children who were once two and three are now 62 and 63 or 42 and 43 and they are having fun keeping up with younger ones.

 

But what time is it and what season is it and are you experiencing God’s grace and love in the midst of it all?

 

 

Maybe it is a season of many opportunities

 

Or one of fewer and fewer options…

 

What is it that God desires of you right now?

 

 

 

Maybe it is a season when there are not enough hours in the day

 

Or there is too much time on one’s hands

 

What is it that God desire of you right now?

 

 

 

I believe after this week that God continues to dwell with us no matter what time or season it is.

 

 

It is my prayer that we walk with God in the midst of whatever season and whatever time we find ourselves in because God desires for us His good and perfect will all the time.

 

 

Amen.

 

A Hump Day Prayer for Those Who Wait Beside A Bed

Gracious God

Hospital

Hospital (Photo credit: ☺ Lee J Haywood)

We pray for those who wait beside a bed

sitting, sleeping, standing

as a friend, a parent, a child, a spouse,

lays in it

in pain

in healing

in dying

in between dying and death

the life that is and the life that is to come.

The memories for some who wait are full and long

they go back, decades

through school

Vintage Photo - Group Photo

Vintage Photo – Group Photo (Photo credit: QueenofTarts)

home,

college or trade school

marriage,

parenting and work

retirement and decline

in times of peace and in times of war.

For others Lord, the memories are short

hours old

no history is remembered and

the history that is being made

is tentative and uncertain.

They both prompt the question, “How Long, Jesus?”

Tight grasp

Tight grasp (Photo credit: Lord Manley)

But one anticipates a ‘home going’

the seeks a hope for ‘going home.’

So Lord

Our Savior and Healer

Grant peace, grace and strength to those who wait

and those who lie in the bed

Ease the pain for both

We pray for Your good and perfect will to be done.

Amen.

Sunday Sermon: Now What Jesus? “Tell the Story!”

Scripture Passage – Acts 2:22-36

Description – Communion Meditation and initial sermon for April 2013 series, “Now What Jesus?”

We are approaching the time of year when we are again reminded that life has chapters that end and chapters that begin as millions of people

Graduation

Graduation (Photo credit: uonottingham)

from 17 and 18 year olds and up graduate from high school, college, or trade school. It is a time when these individuals field questions from us that begin long before the actual event of graduation take place:

So what are your plans after graduation?

Are you going to college? Where?

Have you found a job?

We know that this end of chapter experience is a transition in which it is expected that something else will occur – a job or a new educational experience will take place.

It is basically what I call a “Now what?” or even “What now?” experience.

From last Monday to today and beyond this day to tomorrow – we have a ‘what now?’ to answer. Easter Sunday is a very important day in the life of the Christian and the Christian faith. It is a key, if not the key, day of the faith for without the resurrection, we really do not have a faith.

But we have Easter Sunday and then we have this Sunday – the Sunday after Easter. “Now what?”

I cannot help but think that the remaining disciples and those who gathered with them after Jesus ascended back to heaven asked “now what?” before the Day of Pentecost when the Holy Spirit came in a great and visible way.

While Easter Sunday is a key Sunday in the life and celebration of our faith, there is a Sunday after Easter, and a Sunday after that and a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday after that as well! “Now what? What now?”

During the four Sundays this month, we are going to walk through the following passages of the book of Acts to answer the questions, “Now what?” and “What now?”:

Today – Acts 2:22-36 What now? “Tell the story!”

Next Sunday – Acts 10:44-48 What now? “Allow the Spirit!”

April 21st – Acts 9:1-20 What now? “Change!”

April 28th – Acts 7:54-60 What now? “Stand fast!”

So there is an answer (actually several answers) to “What now?” and we are going to spend time with those answers because they point to the issue of empowerment and being empowered by the Holy Spirit to engage in a mission, God’s mission, the church’s mission of making disciples.

Let us hear Acts 2:22-36 this morning: (Go to: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Acts%202:22-36&version=NIV

When Jesus spoke to them back in Acts 1 just before He ascended back to heaven, He told those gathered “You will receive power … go be my

St. Peter Preaching at Pentecost by Benjamin West

St. Peter Preaching at Pentecost by Benjamin West (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

witnesses.” And as we have just read, following the coming of the Holy Spirit, that is what they began to do. Here we have in our main text Peter, sometimes timid, often impulsive Peter, stepping out and boldly saying, in the strength and power of the Holy Spirit, “this is the story behind the strange signs and languages you have just heard.”

The opportunity to tell the story –God’s story- becomes ‘what’s next!’ for the disciples.

The Easter story – the story of the resurrection; the Advent story – the story of Jesus’ birth – the story of Moses, Joseph, Peter, David, Ruth, Esther, and others – is the story about a God who cares about us, wants to be involved in our lives, and offers us forgiveness of all that we have said and done that is wrong. But, the story has to be told, again and again and again.

It has to be told when it is easy to tell and when it is hard to tell.

As I have said before, we do not have to spend time coming up with a mission statement. We already have one – it is in the command of Jesus to “go make disciples” and “to love God and neighbor as one self.”

So what does this mean for this week?

Let me suggest that we need to tell and keep telling not just with our words but with our actions the story of God’s forgiveness and love. Our mission is to help people come to faith in Christ and experience this saving love and grace just as we have by telling the story – God’s story – a story of redemption.

And we are reminded this morning of this story as we take communion together. We practice open communion here, you do not have to be a member, and so if you wish to join us, you are welcome to do so. But let us do so with repentant hearts and openness to God’s working in our lives as we do so today.

I end with this question, “What story and whose story are you telling through your life these days?”

Let us prepare our hearts for communion.

Amen.

Post Easter Hump Day Prayer

Where do we go now Lord Jesus?

path path path

path path path (Photo credit: hockadilly)

You are risen from the dead.

We know this because we have experienced Your grace, salvation, and mercy time and time again.

What do we do now?

Make disciples?

Be witnesses?

But Jesus…

I am not a preacher or a missionary! That’s their job!

What? My job, too?

But Lord…

what…

how…

I can’t…

The Holy Spirit?

Yeah, I believe in Him.

Yeah, I know He empowered Peter to speak..

Yes, Jesus but…

I am not like Peter, Jesus

Peter was Peter…

Yeah, I remember my Sunday School teacher

uh huh, my pastor too…

Ordinary people?

Not to me they weren’t!!!

I never thought that way before…

I never looked at it that way before…

They were ordinary people I guess

but they loved You and obeyed You and…

I see it now Jesus…

Help me then… I can’t do it by myself.

Where do I begin?

Okay Jesus, okay…

A “Maundy Thursday” My One Word: Empower

 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

OneWord2013_Empower150There is so much about this particular day, Maundy Thursday (or Holy Thursday or Covenant Thursday whatever one chooses to call it), that when I begin to reflect on all that happened on that Thursday centuries ago, I am overwhelmed.  But as I began to reflect on my one word for this year – empower – I thought there was certainly some aspect of this Thursday that included, in some way, the importance of empower and empowerment.

I found it in the verse mentioned above out of John 15.

It is, of course, part of Jesus’ remarks to the disciples in the upper room a few hours from his arrest, “trial,” sentencing, and Crucifixion. The image of the vine and branches speaks to me of empowerment – and an empowerment that the disciples I am sure did not fully understand until after Pentecost.

But what I truly take away is an awareness that even in the midst of betrayal, injustice, and death, Jesus was looking beyond the present circumstances and to the day when the disciples, through the coming of the Holy Spirit, would be empowered to tell the Good News of forgiveness and salvation through Christ. Is this not a feature of empowerment? Looking beyond the circumstances to a great goal and a greater future?

May the grace, love, and mercy of God through Christ, be personal to us again this Holy Weekend and may we again be renewed and empowered by the Holy Spirit for loving and service God in the days ahead.